Break Free From The Grips Of Fear
By Joe White
President and Founder of Get Life Coaching
Entrepreneur of The Year
What keeps anyone from changing? It is fear– fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough, fear of not being loved, fear of loss, fear of getting revealed as a fraud, fear of change, fear of all of the above. Fear cripples us, limits us and robs us of the ability to respond. In the end it keeps us from the life that we really want. Even after we know the effects of fear and we experience the effects of fear we do little or nothing to change. Our response usually comes in the form of an “I tried.” We say, “I tried to change,” or “I am really trying to get better,” but the truth is that “trying” will never get you anything other than a reason why things didn’t work out. So roll up your sleeves and get ready to break through the barrier of your fear.
5 Keys Of Breaking Through The Barrier Of Fear
1) See it as it is, not worse
Too often we make our fears bigger than they really are. It always reminds me of the wizard in the Wizard of Oz. The big scary Wizard was really a small little scared man. We can’t dismiss the fear, because fear is ultimately here to serve us, but we want to hear its message and then move forward. Most of the times we can handle the fear of normal proportion. It’s when it becomes larger than life that we become overwhelmed by its presence.
2) See it better than it is
Our brains work on two guiding principles, one is the desire to avoid pain and the other is the desire to gain pleasure. When we are in pain or uncomfortable we naturally will seek a way to get out of pain. If we can create a clear vision or image of what we really want, our brain will begin to find ways to make it a reality.
3) Recognize your resources
We all have resources. Sometimes it is a friend or co-worker, other times it is within us from a time in the past we overcame fear, or it is a place where we can go to get more information and help. Regardless where we find the resources we must prepare before we take action. It is like a country that is preparing for war. They begin to stock pile weapons. You need to stock pile your resources now.
4) Take massive action
This is the step where people stop. It is also called approach avoidance. I conduct a seminar called Breaking Through The Barrier. It is a seminar in which we get people to move past their fears. That is the day where they take everything they learn and apply it to break a pine board with their bare hand. As we get closer to the time when we break boards, you can see the fear begin to rise. Even though they now have the resources, they become scared to take the action. You can imagine how powerful it is when they push past the fear and take action and they see the board is broken! Don’t stop at the doorway, go through the door of opportunity.
5) Don’t give up
Even when we take action, it doesn’t mean we will automatically get the results. We could be doing the wrong action, not enough action, not doing the action long enough yet. We cannot always measure success by the results we get. We must keep focused on what is important and keep moving forward. If our approach doesn’t work, we must try something else. If that doesn’t work, we need to try something else. One quality that is so common in successful people is that they don’t give up.
The acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. We give fear life or more life in our mind. The more we avoid it, the greater it is until it becomes a 10,000 pound gorilla. We must step up and walk through the fear. Not later, not tomorrow but now. Live Free.
Until next issue… I wish you love and passion – Joe White
Like most married woman with children, I found myself coursing through life on autopilot. My first priority was taking care of my family, which lead me to take a back seat to my own life. I “thought” I was unhappy and that crushed my spirit. How could I be so unhappy when I have so much to be grateful for? What I learned through attending the Fire Walk and Breaking through the Barrier is that you don’t “lose” happiness, or need to search for it. It is there with you everyday. You just need the right tools to help you wipe away fear, old habits and denial. Once you accomplish that goal, you’ll find happiness standing right in front of you, arms extended; ready to embrace you once again. Thank you GLC. Thank you for teaching me how to get back in the driver’s seat….I am thoroughly enjoying the ride! With lots of love and gratitude. ~ Cindy Berkowitz
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